How many times have you heard that from a girl? I know I've said it before.
Almost every girl I know has that "perfect guy friend" but they would never consider him "marriage material".
But almost every girl I know (myself included) also complains about how there just aren't any guys within their social circle they would even consider.
My Dad has often said that as long as two people love the Lord and have Christ as their foundation for life they can make a marriage happen.
I think, we as women, fantasize marriage based on what our culture has told us it should be and we forget that marriage is work. It's hard work.
I loved this article for several reasons. One, she reminds us that the men who are kind, gentle and "there" are usually the best for a long-term relationship (which is what marriage should be: till death do you part). Two, in our society women are encouraged to have a job outside of the home or they are looked down upon for not achieving that level of success, but I know a lot of girls who are terrified that one day they won't have that white house with the picket fence and the 2.4 kids. She reminded me that sometimes looking for "Mr. Right" isn't always right.
Sounds like our "perfect guy friend" could be our "perfect marriage partner".
Just a thought....
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Monday, March 15, 2010
Sunday, May 10, 2009
Hate in Many Forms
I hate today. For one, it's Mother's Day and I hate Mother's Day. Right now it only reminds me of the fact that I don't have a mom. And, please, do not bring up rejoicing with others, because I don't want to rejoice with them today. Today I just want to be mad.
My entire family reads my blog. I know this and sometimes it makes it hard to blog because then stuff I write either gets discussed or I get lectured. To be honest, I've thought about starting a new blog... and not giving it to anyone.
Do I always make the right choices? No. In fact, 99.9% of the time I make the definite wrong choice. And when it comes to guys I seem to ALWAYS make the wrong decision. I don't know what to do. It is so hard being a girl and being very easily driven by emotion. I hate it. Reason two I hate today.
I have so many issues. But so many I've worked through by God's grace. Through Christ my mindset and how I believed has changed so much that it's a miracle. If Bethany would comment she could tell you it's true. Especially when it comes to guys. Oh my goodness. I can't even begin to tell you how much.
The fact that my dad thinks I'm chasing/jumping from guy to guy hurts like the dickens right now.
A month ago, I had a guy that I liked beyond belief (6 or 7 years ago) tell me that he liked me. I let my emotions get ahead of everything else. I was excited. I had a date with him planned without praying or even thinking about what I was doing. Then two days later he said he didn't like me that way. I was hurt and confused. Nothing like being rejected.
But he and I talked it out. I had wondered if something had been said (late at night) that didn't need to be said. Turns out I was right. We are still friends and talk occasionally.
Then, CoolGuy, tells me who he is. Lame as this may sound, and it may not make any sense, I had been "interested" in CoolGuy from the comments he left on my blog. But I didn't really want to "like" him since I didn't know who he was and there were some guys at that BCM who were definite no's.
Since finding out who CoolGuy is, he and I have been talking over email and text messages. I don't really know him, but I'm interested in getting to know him better.
I am in the middle of a fast and I told him no talk about relationships of any kind until it was over. He was fine with that and our conversations have been about grape juice, dogs vs. cats, what we are doing that day, our families. In my mind, harmless stuff to be talking about.
I realize that I jumped the gun with (we'll call him George; that's what I name spiders that show up in my room) George. I didn't want to repeat that again. So I have been very careful with what I've said to CoolGuy. I have even been careful about how much of my emotions I'm letting out.
Of course, that is a struggle, because sometimes I can't tell when I'm hiding my emotions or when I'm ignoring them or what! It's soooo frustrating!
I never felt like I had my mom's approval. The desire to have my dad's has doubled since she passed because she isn't here and I NEED it from my dad. Since I don't have it I really want to tell CoolGuy that I can't talk to him anymore. But another side of me doesn't want to do that. I want to tell him that we can't talk until my dad realizes that I'm not jumping from guy to guy. Will that ever happen? I don't know. But I can't do this. I don't know what to do about this. I have the email typed and ready to send to CoolGuy telling him I can't talk to him.... but I really don't want to send it.
Bethany told me to chill out. I hate it when she says that. She is not kind or compassionate when I am hurting... at least it feels that way.
Here is what people don't seem to understand. I may be a fickled, emotional girl, but when I enter a relationship it will be for life. I have no desire or plan to date casually. I don't even want to do the whole, "Hey, let's go on two dates and see if it works". I'm so loyal that it will never be less than forever. Even though I've never been in a relationship I know this is true. I know it because I am so loyal and protective of my family and close friends.
And that is why I'm being (well, I thought I was) so careful. I hate making mistakes. George was a mistake and I have no desire to repeat it. That is why I'm so unsure about what to do to get my Dad to see that I am trying to be very cautious with CoolGuy.
I'm going to get something to eat. Then I'll be back to blog about the stuff I've been painting.
My entire family reads my blog. I know this and sometimes it makes it hard to blog because then stuff I write either gets discussed or I get lectured. To be honest, I've thought about starting a new blog... and not giving it to anyone.
Do I always make the right choices? No. In fact, 99.9% of the time I make the definite wrong choice. And when it comes to guys I seem to ALWAYS make the wrong decision. I don't know what to do. It is so hard being a girl and being very easily driven by emotion. I hate it. Reason two I hate today.
I have so many issues. But so many I've worked through by God's grace. Through Christ my mindset and how I believed has changed so much that it's a miracle. If Bethany would comment she could tell you it's true. Especially when it comes to guys. Oh my goodness. I can't even begin to tell you how much.
The fact that my dad thinks I'm chasing/jumping from guy to guy hurts like the dickens right now.
A month ago, I had a guy that I liked beyond belief (6 or 7 years ago) tell me that he liked me. I let my emotions get ahead of everything else. I was excited. I had a date with him planned without praying or even thinking about what I was doing. Then two days later he said he didn't like me that way. I was hurt and confused. Nothing like being rejected.
But he and I talked it out. I had wondered if something had been said (late at night) that didn't need to be said. Turns out I was right. We are still friends and talk occasionally.
Then, CoolGuy, tells me who he is. Lame as this may sound, and it may not make any sense, I had been "interested" in CoolGuy from the comments he left on my blog. But I didn't really want to "like" him since I didn't know who he was and there were some guys at that BCM who were definite no's.
Since finding out who CoolGuy is, he and I have been talking over email and text messages. I don't really know him, but I'm interested in getting to know him better.
I am in the middle of a fast and I told him no talk about relationships of any kind until it was over. He was fine with that and our conversations have been about grape juice, dogs vs. cats, what we are doing that day, our families. In my mind, harmless stuff to be talking about.
I realize that I jumped the gun with (we'll call him George; that's what I name spiders that show up in my room) George. I didn't want to repeat that again. So I have been very careful with what I've said to CoolGuy. I have even been careful about how much of my emotions I'm letting out.
Of course, that is a struggle, because sometimes I can't tell when I'm hiding my emotions or when I'm ignoring them or what! It's soooo frustrating!
I never felt like I had my mom's approval. The desire to have my dad's has doubled since she passed because she isn't here and I NEED it from my dad. Since I don't have it I really want to tell CoolGuy that I can't talk to him anymore. But another side of me doesn't want to do that. I want to tell him that we can't talk until my dad realizes that I'm not jumping from guy to guy. Will that ever happen? I don't know. But I can't do this. I don't know what to do about this. I have the email typed and ready to send to CoolGuy telling him I can't talk to him.... but I really don't want to send it.
Bethany told me to chill out. I hate it when she says that. She is not kind or compassionate when I am hurting... at least it feels that way.
Here is what people don't seem to understand. I may be a fickled, emotional girl, but when I enter a relationship it will be for life. I have no desire or plan to date casually. I don't even want to do the whole, "Hey, let's go on two dates and see if it works". I'm so loyal that it will never be less than forever. Even though I've never been in a relationship I know this is true. I know it because I am so loyal and protective of my family and close friends.
And that is why I'm being (well, I thought I was) so careful. I hate making mistakes. George was a mistake and I have no desire to repeat it. That is why I'm so unsure about what to do to get my Dad to see that I am trying to be very cautious with CoolGuy.
I'm going to get something to eat. Then I'll be back to blog about the stuff I've been painting.
Thursday, April 16, 2009
Chop, Chop, Chew, *spews out of mouth while chewing with mouth open*
I am trying to study. But I can't concentrate. There are people chopping on chips and it's really getting on my nerves right now. Anyone who knows me well knows I can't stand the sound of people chewing. I've gotten better about ignoring it but it still bothers me. I seriously had to stop myself from telling this lady to tell her kids to chew with their mouths closed. I mean come on! Don't we teach manners to children anymore?! It's nasty people! CHEW WITH YOUR STINKIN' MOUTHS CLOSED!!!! It's not even that hard!
Wow. I feel much better. It was/is driving me bonkers. I've got my headphones in and Dave is blaring in my ears. Gotta love some Dave Barnes. Especially when you are irritated. He makes everything better.
I've been people watching. That is one of my favorite things to do. I love watching faces. And to see what makes people smile, frown, etc. And there are always so many different people here. I also like listening to other people's conversations. Definitely another favorite thing to do. I'm beginning to realize I have lots of favorites. :)
I think since I'm in Wartown I'm gonna go to Starbucks later. I left because Joe was mad at me and I didn't want to be around his bad attitude anymore. All I did was ask him to unclog the bathroom sink because it's not draining and I'm sick of it. He was the only boy around and so I asked him... well, I demanded he do something about it. So he got mad. Oh well. Who cares.
I had two different guys call me "pet" names today. That was a first in a long time. One called me "Love" more than twice and the other called me "Hun". haha. They are funny kids so it's cool. And one of them asked me if I was dating RG. Do you know how long it's been since I've done anything with RG?! Months. Since we were snowed in in Athens at least. I haven't been going to the BCM Bible study with him. I've barely seen him since the beginning of March so I don't know why people (still) think we are "together". We are not together. Although he is supposed to call me later today. But he probably won't. He never calls when he says he will.
I ate chili beans, turkey sausage and kale cooked in the cast iron skillet for lunch. It was actually pretty nasty. Marianna said I needed to be out on the trail, with a wagon cooking over a fire like a pioneer woman. :) She's so funny.
Alright, I'm going to try to get back on the French. We'll see how well that goes. I think I may need to go some place people aren't eating. Or I just may go home. I told J-Mar I might go to the Hanger. I haven't made up my mind yet. J-Mar is so sweet. He makes me happy. Okay, I'm done.
*Edit: I have never been with RG. I've just had people ask me in the past if we were dating. That's one of the reasons I stopped doing so much with him... because I was sick of it. He would never date me so stop asking people. It's beginning to be really nerve racking.
Wow. I feel much better. It was/is driving me bonkers. I've got my headphones in and Dave is blaring in my ears. Gotta love some Dave Barnes. Especially when you are irritated. He makes everything better.
I've been people watching. That is one of my favorite things to do. I love watching faces. And to see what makes people smile, frown, etc. And there are always so many different people here. I also like listening to other people's conversations. Definitely another favorite thing to do. I'm beginning to realize I have lots of favorites. :)
I think since I'm in Wartown I'm gonna go to Starbucks later. I left because Joe was mad at me and I didn't want to be around his bad attitude anymore. All I did was ask him to unclog the bathroom sink because it's not draining and I'm sick of it. He was the only boy around and so I asked him... well, I demanded he do something about it. So he got mad. Oh well. Who cares.
I had two different guys call me "pet" names today. That was a first in a long time. One called me "Love" more than twice and the other called me "Hun". haha. They are funny kids so it's cool. And one of them asked me if I was dating RG. Do you know how long it's been since I've done anything with RG?! Months. Since we were snowed in in Athens at least. I haven't been going to the BCM Bible study with him. I've barely seen him since the beginning of March so I don't know why people (still) think we are "together". We are not together. Although he is supposed to call me later today. But he probably won't. He never calls when he says he will.
I ate chili beans, turkey sausage and kale cooked in the cast iron skillet for lunch. It was actually pretty nasty. Marianna said I needed to be out on the trail, with a wagon cooking over a fire like a pioneer woman. :) She's so funny.
Alright, I'm going to try to get back on the French. We'll see how well that goes. I think I may need to go some place people aren't eating. Or I just may go home. I told J-Mar I might go to the Hanger. I haven't made up my mind yet. J-Mar is so sweet. He makes me happy. Okay, I'm done.
*Edit: I have never been with RG. I've just had people ask me in the past if we were dating. That's one of the reasons I stopped doing so much with him... because I was sick of it. He would never date me so stop asking people. It's beginning to be really nerve racking.
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